Do you believe in giving a job two weeks notice before leaving? Why or why not? I have always been told that it was a professional courtesy to let your employer know your plans to end your relationship with them. It’s so your employer has time to fill your vacancy. Though I’ve complied, I’ve never agreed with this practice. If you’re let go from a job, they don’t give you two weeks notice that your ass is fired so why is it that I have to give two weeks notice on my departure? Aw, okay. Though quiet quitting is by no means a new concept, it gained some popularity during the pandemic when people starting sharing their experiences with it via TikTok.
During the pandemic, people discovered just how little their employers cared about them. As a result, employees that were once classified as driven and engaged became withdrawn, and started doing the bare minimum; showing up just so they wouldn’t get fired. All it took was for their employer to show them just how little they actually valued them. People were putting themselves at risk, working themselves into an early grave for a job that would have their position filled before funeral arrangements could be made.
I started to think about the concept of quiet quitting in relation to how I end relationships in my life. Early in my dating experience, I was a “I need closure” girlie. Then I transitioned to the big blow ups to end things. The “fuck you!” “I hate you!” “I wish I never met you!” endings- this was my least favorite stage. Recently I’ve noticed I mentally and emotionally disengage before I physically remove myself. It’s a slower process in situations I have heavy emotional investments in but I always mentally check out first. I start imagining my life, my routines, habits etc without “my person” being a part of them. Then I withdraw intimately. If you don’t have my mind- my body…just…can’t. Once the sex is gone, the emotions don’t feel so big or deep anymore.
Ironically, I don’t think I’ve ever quiet quit a platonic friendship. I’m going to be transparent and just admit that I am less tolerant in my friendships than I am in my relationships. I have logic and reasoning behind this that we’ll get into another day in another blog post. But! Chime in! I want to hear from you. Do you quiet quit your relationships? Friendships? Situationships?
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